Basore, mufate akanya musome, turebere hamwe ibintu bigera kuri 14 wakora, kugira ngo abakobwa bakwiyumvemo bitagusabye kujya mu bapfumu no gukoresha amarozi.
Niba ushaka gukundwa n’abakobwa benshi, hari ibintu by’ingenzi wakora kugira ngo ugaragare neza, wubake umubano mwiza nabo, kandi ube umuntu wifuzwa. Dore inama zishingiye ku bushakashatsi n’ubunararibonye bw’abahanga mu by’imibanire:
1. Itondere isuku n’imyambarire
Abakobwa bakunda abasore bitaho isuku yabo, bakambara neza kandi bafite imyambarire iboneye. Ibi bigaragaza ko wubaha abandi kandi wiyitaho.
2. Jya ushyira imbere ikinyabupfura n’ubupfura
Kwiyitaho, kugira umutima mwiza, no kwirinda amagambo cyangwa ibikorwa bishobora kubabaza abandi ni ingenzi. Ubushakashatsi bugaragaza ko abakobwa bakunda abasore bafite umutima mwiza kandi babasha kwitwara neza mu bihe bitandukanye.
3. Ba umwizerwa kandi wubaha abandi
Kwubaha abakobwa, kubaha ibitekerezo byabo, no kubaha umwanya wabo ni ibintu abakobwa bakunda. Ibi bigaragaza ko wubaha umuntu wese kandi wubaha umubano wanyu.
4. Jya wumva neza ibyo bakubwira
Abakobwa bakunda abasore babasha kubumva neza, bagatanga inama nziza, kandi bakabereka ko babitayeho. Ibi bituma wiyongera mu gaciro kabo kandi ukabaka umubano mwiza.
5. Jya ugaragaza ko wiyitaho mu buryo bw’umubiri
Kwita ku buzima bwawe, gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri, no kugira imirire iboneye bituma ugaragara neza kandi ugira imbaraga. Ibi bituma abakobwa bakubona nk’umusore wiyitaho kandi ufite intego.
6. Jya ugaragaza ko ufite intego n’ibyiyumviro byiza
Abakobwa bakunda abasore bafite intego mu buzima, bafite ibitekerezo byiza, kandi bashaka kugera ku ntego zabo. Ibi bituma wiyongera mu gaciro kabo kandi ukabaka umubano mwiza.
7. Jya ugaragaza ko wumva neza ibyo bakubwira
Abakobwa bakunda abasore babasha kubumva neza, bakabereka ko babitayeho, kandi bakabaha inama nziza. Ibi bituma wiyongera mu gaciro kabo kandi ukabaka umubano mwiza.
8. Kwiyitaho no Kugaragara neza
- Isuku ni ingenzi cyane: kumesa imyenda, gucya amenyo, kogosha/kwisokoza, no gutunganya inzara.
- Imyambarire: yambara neza kandi ikamubereye, atari ngombwa ngo ibe ihenze.
- Umubiri: gukora siporo no kwirinda kwiyanduza (imyanda, itabi, ibiyobyabwenge).
9. Kugira icyizere
- Kwigirira icyizere (confidence) bivuga kwiyemera buhoro ariko utishyira hejuru.
- Kuvugana neza: utavuga ibintu byo guca intege cyangwa ubwirasi.
- Kugira intego mu buzima: umukobwa akururwa n’umusore ufite icyo aharanira.
10. Kuba umunyabwenge no kumenya kuvuga neza
- Umugani ngo “amagambo meza aryoshya umutima”: kumenya gukoresha amagambo ateye ubwuzu.
- Kuganira ibintu bifite ireme: si ukuguma mu bintu by’ubusanzwe gusa.
- Kumva neza ibyo abandi bavuga (kumva no kumva neza – active listening)
11. Kuba inyangamugayo kandi wizerwa
- Kuba umuntu w’ukuri, utarya inyuma y’ibindi.
- Guhora uri umuntu umwe, utihinduranya bitewe n’abo muri kumwe.
12. Kuba wita ku bandi no kugira impuhwe
- Utiyitaho gusa, ahubwo ugira umutima w’impuhwe.
- Kumenya gufasha abandi, gutega amatwi, no kugaragaza ko witaye ku bandi, birimo no kwita ku byo umukobwa yifuza cyangwa yifuza kuvugaho.
13. Gushyiraho umuco wihariye
- Kuba udasanzwe mu mico yawe myiza: urugero, guhorana umunezero, gukunda gusetsa mu buryo buboneye, kugira ikintu cyihariye (hobby, impano, etc.).
- Urumuri rwawe bwite rushobora kuba ikintu gikurura abakobwa.
14. Kwiyubaka mu buzima
- Umukobwa akururwa n’umusore uzi aho ajya, atari uwicaye gusa ategereje.
- Kuba ufite gahunda yo kwiteza imbere (mu masomo, akazi, ubuzima rusange).
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